FROM "THE WEDDING DATE"

A QUOTE FROM THE TRAILER;

"THE HARDEST THING IS LOVING SOMEONE, THEN HAVING THE COURAGE TO LET THEM LOVE YOU BACK."

IT SO SAD TO ME. I AM REALIZING EVERYTHING......... WHAT I AM LOSING, WHAT I HAD, AND THE THINGS I HAVE DONE.  WHAT A MISTAKE..........

I CAN'T BLAME EVERYTHING ON MYSELF, IT DOES TAKE TWO TO MAKE A RELATIONSHIP. BUT HE HAS HAD ENOUGH. I DON'T BLAME HIM........ I DIDN'T HAVE THE COURAGE.......

I GUESS WITH VALENTINE'S COMING AROUND THE CORNER AND EVER WHERE I TURN. I SEE LOVE IN THE AIR.  AND I REMEMBER....... AND IT'S HARD FOR ME. I WILL OVER COME THIS....... LIFE GOES ON!!!!!

QUIZ.........

QUIZ FROM http://journals.aol.com/eml625/Onedayatatime/

1. What time is it:  10:48 AM

2. Name as it appears on birth certificate:   I AM NOT GOING TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION, BUT FIRST NAME IS BRENDA

3. Nicknames: MOM       

4.Piercings?   MY EARS, ONLY.

5. What is the most recent movie you've seen in the theater:  CLOSER, LOVE NATALIE PORTMAN, SHE IS SWEETHEART........

6. Eye color:  BROWN

7. Place of birth:    HEREFORD, TEXAS

8. Favorite foods:  ANYTHING HOMECOOKED, I DON'T LIKE FAST FOOD.

9. Ever been to Africa:   No.

10. Ever been toilet papering:  No.

11. Love someone so much it made you cry:  YES

12. Been in a car accident? YES, AND MY NECK HAS NEVER BEEN THE SAME.  

13. Croutons or bacon bits: BACON BITS

14. Favorite day of the week:   FRIDAY, START OF THE WEEKEND.

15. Favorite restaurants:  OLIVE GARDEN

16. Favorite flower:  HYDRANGEAS

17. Favorite sport to watch? TENNIS

18.   Favorite drinks:  PEACH TEA FROM OLIVE GARDEN

19. Favorite ice cream:   CHOCOLATE, LOVE CHOCOLATE......... 

20. Disney or Warner Brothers: DISNEY

21. Favorite fast food restaurant:  DON'T LIKE FAST FOOD.

22. What color is your bedroom carpet: TAN  

23. How many times did you fail your driver's test:   ONCE-THE WRITTEN TEST.

24. Before this one, from whom did you get your last e-mail: This survey didn't come from an e-mail.

25. Which store would you choose to max out your credit card: YES....... J.C. Penneys

26. What do you do most often when you are bored?  YEP...J-land was created so we dont get bored !

27. Bedtime:  10 PM, SOMETIMES 11 

28. Who will respond to this the quickest? n/a

29. Who is the person you sent this to that is least likely to respond:  I suggested for others to copy and paste it into their own journals!  Hopefully everyone will leave me a link to read what they have written about themselves!

30. Who are you most curious about their responses to this questionnaire?  All
of them

31. Favorite TV show:  SHOW(S)- Desperate Housewives, CSI, WITHOUT A TRACE, AMAZING RACE, LOST, LOVE EVENING TV, HUH............

32. Last person you went to dinner with: KIDS AND HUSBAND AFTER A ROSARY......

33. Ford or Chevy: NONE, TOYOTA.  WOULD LOVE A SEQUOIA..........

34. What are you listening to right now: MY 2 YR OLD SON BEAT UP MY DAUGHTER. PLAYING............

35. What is your favorite color:  BLUE

36. Lake, Ocean or River:  OCEAN.

37. How many tattoos do you have: NONE, HATE NEEDLES...........

38. Time you finished this e-mail:  11:11 am

39. Which came first --    Is this a trick question ?? I DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS QUESTION!!!

GIRLFRIENDS

MY GOOD FRIEND SHANNON SENT THIS MESSAGE VIA EMAIL.  I WANT TO SENT IT TO ALL THE GIRLS OUT IN JLAND.............

 

Girlfriends
I'm only as strong as the cocktails I drink, the hairspray I use, and
the girlfriends I have.  Here's to you!   Why do we only have parties
for each other when one of us gets married, pregnant, has a birthday,
or
retires?  What would most of us do without our sisters, confidants,
and
shopping, lunching and traveling girlfriends?

Let's celebrate each other for each other's sake!  Pass this on to
your
girlfriends! If you get this twice or more, you are lucky to have more

than one girlfriend.   Be happy!!!

Someone will always be prettier.  

They will always be smarter.

Their house will be bigger.

They will drive a better car.

Their children will do better in school.

And their husband will fix more things around the house.

So let it go, and love you and your circumstances.

Think about it.

The prettiest woman in the world can have hell in her heart.

And the most highly favored woman on your job may be unable to have
children.

And the richest woman you know,  she's got the car, the house, the
clothes....might be lonely,  the word says if "I have not Love, I am
nothing."

So, again, love you.

Love who you are.

Look in the mirror in the morning and smile and say "I am too blessed
to
be stressed and too anointed to be disappointed!"

"Winners make things happen. Losers let things happen."

Be Blessed ladies and pass this on to encourage another woman.

"To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just
might
be the world".

MIDNIGHT.......

I LOVE THIS PICTURE!!!!!

  MY SON AND HIS FRIEND AT McDONALD'S PLAYYARD.  THIS IS THE FIRST TIME MY SON WENT TO THE TOP OF THIS CLIMBER.  WITH THE HELP OF HIS FRIEND. WE HAVE BEEN TAKING THE BOYS FOR AWHILE NOW.  AND THAT DAY, HE FINALLY DID IT.  SO, HAPPY......  MADE A 5X7 PIC, AND FRAME IT. HERE ARE FEW MORE OF THAT DAY.........     

WELL, LAST NIGHT, I DIDN'T GET TO SLEEP TILL MIDNIGHT.  MY FAULT, I DECIDE TO DO OUR INCOME TAX RETURN. FINALLY RECEIVED ALL THE PAPER WORK, SO I SAT DOWN, AND LOG ON LINE FOR OTHER PAPER WORK. THIS IS THE FIRST YEAR TO PROCESS OUR INCOME TAX RETURN WITH A SELF-EMPLOYEMENT. SO IT TOKE ME ALITTLE TO FIGURE IT OUT.  WELL, WHEN I FINALLY DID.  WHAT DOES MY HUSBAND SAYS.......... "MAYBE WE SHOULD PAY SOMEONE TO FIGURE IT OUT."  UHHHHH............ TILL MIDNIGHT............. WELL, I KNOW..... TO MAKE SURE IT IS PROCESS CORRECTLY.  BUT IF THEY COME OUT WITH THE SAME FIGURE............ I WILL HAVE SHOWN HIM..... HUH............. HE DOESN'T TRUST ME!!!!!! THAT'S OK.......  

 ALSO, THIS JOB HUNTING IS DRIVING ME CRAZY.  I HAVE NO PATIENCE........ MY MOTHER TOLD ME THAT THAT IS WHAT GOD IS TRYING TO TEACH ME. TO BE PATIENCE.  AND I DO SEE IT. IN EVERYTHING I DO RIGHT NOW. MY FRIEND, THELMA, SHE TOLD ME. I HAVE TO HAVE EVERYTHING RIGHT AWAY AND NEED EVERYTHING, SNAP AND SNAP (THOSE ARE HER FINGERS SNAPPING)............. BUT I GET THINGS DONE, AND I ACCOMPLISH MY GOALS.  I DON'T KNOW.... MAYBE I DO NEED A LITTLE PATIENCES..... HUH.........

MY TOE.......

I WENT TO THE FOOT SPECIALIST, PODIATRY, YESTERDAY. TO TAKE CARE OF MY INGROWN TOE NAIL, ONCE AND FOR ALL.........

1ST TIME WENT TO MY FAMILY DOCTOR TO TAKE CARE OF IT. BUT IT CAME BACK...... AND NOW WITH THE PODIATRY. I HOPE THIS TAKE CARE OF IT.  BUT MY TOE HURTS.  AND THOSE SHOTS, YES MORE THAN ONE TO NUMB IT---HURTS....... PLUS I THINK THAT MY (((OTHER))) TOE WILL BE DONE IN A COUPLE OF MONTHS.

SO THIS IS THE 3RD PROCEDURE. YOU WOULD THINK I WOULD BE USE TO IT.  BUT THEN I KNOW THE PAIN...........

ANYWAY, NO PAINKILLERS. TOLD ME TO TAKE ADVIL OR ANY OVER THE COUNTER MEDICATION. SO TAKING IT EVERY 4 HOURS.  DIDN'T REALLY SLEEP WELL.  ALSO, MY LITTLE MAN WOKE UP AT 1:30 AM.  HE HAS A HEAD COLD AND IS COUGHING AND CAN'T REALLY BREATHE AT NIGHT.  SO SLEEPLESS NIGHTS IN THIS HOUSE..........

MAYBE THIS WEEKEND I COULD GET SOME REST...... CAN YOU BELEIVE IT. THE WEEKEND IS ALMOST HERE.  TIME IS SURE FLYING...........

COMFORT........

I TRY TO GET A HUG FROM MY HUSBAND BECAUSE I NEED SOME COMFORT. BUT I COULD SENSE HE DIDN'T WANT TOO. AND THAT HE REALLY DOESN'T LOVE ME, OR HE REALLY HIDED IT WELL.

I GUESS I HAVE TO REMEMBER TO TELL MYSELF THAT HE DOESN'T LOVE ME ANYMORE AND WE NEED TO MAKE A FRIEND RELATIONSHIP FOR THE KIDS.

BUT I STILL FEEL THE SAME, I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART BUT IT IS BREAKING AND I GUESS WITH TIME I WILL LET GO.........

HE CAN'T FORGIVE ME FOR ALL THE HURTFULL THINGS I HAVE DONE TO HIM.  SO HE IS LETTING GO AND MOVING ON...... THAT IS WHAT IT COMES DOWN TO.

I WOULD FORGIVE HIM FOR WHAT HE HAS PUT ME THROUGH CAUSE THAT IS LOVE........ PLUS I WOULD BE WILLING TO WORK OUT OUR RELATIONSHIP. BUT I HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT HE WANTS TO MOVE ON AND THAT HE DOESN'T LOVE ME.........

SO BE IT.......... LIFE GOES ON!!!!!!!

 

THE NOTEBOOK.......

 

I CAN'T WAIT FOR FEB. 8TH.  THIS DVD WILL FINALLY BE ON SALE..........

TRUELY A LOVE STORY........

COUNTING THE DAYS...... 15 MORE DAYS.

ABOUT KIDS.......

FROM DR. DOBSON’S BOOK; LOVE MUST BE TOUGH.

 

“……..ESPCIALLY THOSE WHO ACHE FOR THE ARMS OF A DEPARTED PARENT. IT IS AN EVERYDAY OCCURRENCE AMONG CHILDREN IN THE UNITED STATES. OVER HALF OF THE BOYS AND GIRLS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE HAVE ONE OR BOTH PARENTS MISSING.  WITHIN THREE YEARS OF THE DIVORCE, HALF OF THE FATHERS NEVER SEE THEIR CHILDREN. …….BUT OFTEN THE MOTIVE FOR FAMILY DISINTEGRATION IS NOTHING MORE SUBSTANTIAL THAN UNBRIDLED SELFISHNESS.  IN THOSE INSTANCES, I MUST ASK WHAT SEXUAL THRILLS—WHAT ROMANIC EXTRAVAGANZAS, WHAT CONFLICT—COULD JUSTIFY THE PAIN OF A CHILD? IT WILL BE REMEMBERED FOR A LIFETIME!”

 

I KNOW THAT MY SON WILL BE THE ONE TO HURT THE MOST.  AS OF RIGHT NOW, HE ASK FOR HIM EVERY NIGHT.  CALLS HIM, “MY DADDY.” THERE WILL BE NIGHT TO COMFORT HIS HEART AND TEARS. AND I WILL HATE HIM FOR BRING THIS ON………… AS FOR MY DAUGHTERS, WHICH ARE OLDER?  THEY SOMEWHAT UNDERSTAND BUT THE OLDEST WANT TO MOVE IN WITH HER DADDY.  AND MY BABY GIRL, SHE IS TORE UP BETWEEN; SHE WAS TO STAY WITH ME. BUT SHE WANTS HER DADDY. I CAN’T BELIEVE HE WANTS TO ONLY BE A PART-TIME DAD.

PART II TO

(WONDERING.......)

GIVEN TIME TO THINK ABOUT THIS. PLUS I READING THIS QUOTE;
"FORGIVENESS IS SURRENDERING MY RIGHT TO HURT YOU FOR HURTING ME."  FROM DR. JAMES DOBSON'S BOOK, LOVE MUST BE TOUGH.

WITH PATIENCE I THINK I COULD ACCOMPLISH THIS.  THE HURT IS SO DEEP BUT WITH TIME IT HEALS.........

WONDERING........

I READ THIS STATEMENT TODAY AND I AM WONDERING HOW TO INTERPRET?

"THERE IS NO PLACE FOR HATRED IN THE HEART OF ONE WHO HAS HIMSELF BEEN FORGIVEN OF SO MANY SINS."

ALSO, IS IT POSSIBLE TO DO THAT. DENY THE HATRED WHEN THEY HAVE HURT YOU SO BADLY..........

CHANGE........

When we can no longer change a siuation, we are challenged to change ourselves.  --Victor Frankel

THESE PASS COUPLE OF MONTHS THAT HAS BEEN ME.  BUT I DO THINK IT WAS FOR THE BEST. I HAVE GROWN POSITIVELY. AND I FEEL LIKE I COULD HANDLE ALMOST ANYTHING.  BECAUSE I DON'T THINK I HAVE GONE THROUGH EVERYTHING THAT I CAN GO THROUGH. DOES THAT MAKE SENSE???????

WELL, JUST A LITTLE THOUGHT.......

CAR PROBLEMS.........

This is going to be a long entry. And you have to remember about my last entry.  (ARGUMENT)

 

My car started to act up. I did know what was wrong, so I ask my husband if he could drive it. May he knew what was wrong.  He did and said he thought it was the transmission. So I didn’t know anybody in the transmission business or even know who to call.  I was going to open up the yellow pages. And go from there. But the cost and how was I going to pay for this. Here I am trying to find a full-time work and my car brakes down.  When it rains it pours. I had kids to drop off to school and I was going to have an interview for a temp agent.  Like I said I am trying everything to get this job.  And I do hear from other people that that is how they started.

 

Well, my husband suggested this. He would drive my car to his work and have his friend look at it. His friend is a mechanic. He works in fleet.  I could drive his car to take care of things. But he did whisper as he was walking out the door. Cause that is the kind of a**h*** that I am.  I did confront him.  Why that comment: he said that's how I think of him.  Well, we get into another decision. Not really an argument. He is the one that wants the divorce.  He is the one that is not trying to mend the relationship.  But yet, he will blame everything on me.  I did tell him to take some of the responsibility; because he keeps telling me I am not.  I have, he is not listening.  For me, we are going in circle. 

 

Well, let me tell you what else happen to me. That morning I arrived 30 minutes early for my interview. Well, I was so nerves that I had to go to the lady’s room.  Instead of going to the lobby, I went to whataburger (burger restaurant, famous in Texas) which was 6 blocks away. Well, the parking lot in which I parked was on an uphill. I set the brakes to my husband’s car and going in to do my business. Come back out, start the car. Pulled the brake release and it doesn’t want to release.  It’s broken and I can’t drive it. By this time it about 20 minutes to my appointment.  I asked kindly to this man if he could look at it.  He couldn’t do anything.  So I am panicky. So what do I do? I walk.  Walked 6 blocks in heels (not a heel person cause of a heel spur, but wanted to look good). The things we women do. Well, I get there just on the dot.  I am so glad that I manage my obstacles. Cause the interview and testing went very well.  He also mentions of a job that he has in mind for me.  So happy……

 

As for my car, it will be ready in the morning. It was something to do with the electrical to the transmission.

 

As for my husband, what can I say?  There is still a lot of work to be done. And sometimes I don’t know what to think.  He came home last night around 8:30 p.m.  He did mention of a presentation to a supervisor. And he did call around 5:30 to let me know that it was running late.  But after everything I don’t know what to think?  Time will only tell?  Time will only tell!!!!!!!!!

 

ARGUMENT.........

HAD AN ARGUMENT WITH MY HUSBAND LAST NIGHT........

I FINALLY REALIZE THAT HE DOESN'T CARE FOR ME.  HE IS GOING TO DIVORCE ME. AND THAT HE COULD BE SO CRUEL TO ME.........

BUT YET HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO GO ON WITH MY LIFE. HUH...... GO FIGURE.  I KNOW HE MIGHT STILL HAVE SOMETHING FOR ME, BUT HE IS HURTING ME.  SO BADLY..........

LOVE IS TOUGH, HUH.........

BUT WORDS DO HURT.......

I AM A GOOD PERSON AND LOVING,CARING AND ESPECIALLY STRONG.  SO I WILL LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME..........  EVEN WITH WHAT EVER HAPPENS....... 

TROUBLE....

I AM HAVING SOME TROUBLE WITH MY AOL. NEED TO CALL SOMEONE.

TODAY, I READ THIS QUOTE ON THE INTERNET.  LOVE IT......

"EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IS A TWO-WAY PROCESS: TO DO IT WELL, YOU NOT ONLY HAVE TO WRITE AND SPEAK CLEARLY, BUT ALSO DELIVER THE MESSAGE MOST EFFECTIVELY FOR THE AUDIENCE."

 

"WE CRAVE THAT WHICH WE CAN'T ATTAIN, BUT WE DISRESPECT THAT WHICH WE CAN'T ESCAPE. THIS AXIOM IS PARTICULARLY RELAVANT IN ROMANTIC MATTERS, AND HAS PROBABLY INFLUENCED YOUR LOVE LIFE, TOO." FROM DR. DOBSON'S BOOK - LOVE MUST BE TOUGH.

AS HUMANS WE NEED TO STEP BACK AND SEE THE REAL PICTURE.

GREEN DOG

I RECEIVED THIS EMAIL TODAY!!! FROM MY GOOD FRIEND MELINDA.  THANKS I NEED THAT.........

Read Each One Carefully and Think About It a Second or Two

1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you..

2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry.


3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

4.. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touch! es your heart.

5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.

6. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.

7. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

8. Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.

9. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.

10. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.

11. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.

12. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you.

13. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.

REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.

True friends: How many people actually have 8 true friends?

Not anyone I know ! But some of us have all right friends and good friends!!!

You have been Tagged by the Green Dog!

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ruff!!!!!

DIFFERENCES......

JUST SOMETHING I HAVE TO WRITE (TYPE) OUT.

FROM DR. JAMES DOBSON'S BOOK; "LOVE MUST BE TOUGH."

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN STABLE FAMILIES AND THOSE IN SERIOUS TROUBLE REFLECTS WHAT THE BATTLES ACCOMPLISH. IN HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, A PERIOD OF CONFRONTATION ENDS IN FORGIVENESS--IN DRAWING TOGETHER--IN DEEPER RESPECT AND UNDERSTANDING--AND SOMETIMES IN SEXUAL SATISFACION. BUT IN UNSTABLE MARRIAGES A PERIOD OF CONFLICT PRODUCES GREATER PAIN AND ANGER THAT PERSISTS UNTIL THE NEXT FIGHT. WHEN THAT OCCURS, ONE UNRESOLVED ISSUE IS COMPOUNDED BY ANOTHER AND ANOTHER. THAT ACCUMULATION OF RESENTMENT IS AN OMINOUS CIRCUMSTANCE IN ANY MARRIAGE.

LIKE IN DR. PHIL'S BOOK, RELATIONSHIP RESCUE.  HE TALKS ABOUT DIFFERENTS. COUPLE COULD BE SO DIFFERENT FROM EACH OTHER, BUT IF THEY LOVE EACH OTHER AND WORK AT THERE DIFFERENCES.  THAT IS WHAT MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT. I THINK......

THE NEW YEAR.......

 

  SOME PIC I TOOK THE OTHER DAY.

I HAVE BEEN BUSY.  TRYING TO WORK HOURS AT HOME, READING AND NOW STARTING TO LOOK FOR FULL-TIME WORK.

JUST FINISH REVISING MY RESUME.  LOOKS VERY GOOD.  NOW TO HIT THE ROAD AND LOOK FOR THAT DREAM JOB.  RIGHT.........

THINGS AT HOME HAVE BEEN RUNNING SMOOTHLY AND THE GIRLS ARE STAYING OUT OF TROUBLE. FOR NOW........

MY PLAN THIS WEEK:

1. WORKOUT; WEIGHT TRAINING AND WALKING. DID GOOD TODAY = 30 MIN, WEIGHT TRAIN.

2. CHECK OUT OTHER JOB OPPORTUNITYS.

3. CLEAN HOUSE.

4. FINISH READING MY BOOK......

TOMORROW IS WEDNESDAY, THE WEEK IS GOING FAST.......

THIS IS HOW I FEEL......

MY BEST FRIEND, THELMA GAVE ME THIS BOOK; "LOVE MUST BE TOUGH" BY DR. JAMES DOBSON.

ONE OF HIS INTRODUCTION PARAGRAPH HITS THE NAIL ON THE HEAD.  I FEEL LIKE THIS......

"REJECTION AND INSULT ARE BLENDED WITH PAIN AND REMORSE. SELF-ESTEEM COLLAPSES LIKE A GRAND OLD BUILDING SCHEDULES FOR DEMOLITION.  SECURITY AND CONFIDENCE GIVE WAY TO FEAR AND ANXIETY. THE FUTURE LOSES ITS SIGNIFICANCE. BUT MOST DISTURBING OF ALL, THE WOMEN WHO FELT LOVED AND RESPECTED A FEW HOURS BEFORE NOW FEELS UTTERLY DISDAINED AND UNLOVABLE."

IT HURTS SO DEEP, BUT READING THIS BOOK HAS SHOWN ME A DIFFERENT LIGHT I COULD TAKE. RESPECT FOR MYSELF.  WHICH I DO REALIZE NOW THAT HE HAS NONE FOR ME.....

I'M HALF WAY TO THE END OF THIS BOOK.  CAN'T STOP READING IT.  BUT IT HAS, LIKE I SAID. SHOWN A DIFFERENT LIGHT I COULD TAKE.......

THANK YOU THELMA, MY DEAR FRIEND....