THANK YOU.......EVERYONE.  FOR YOUR COMMENTS.  I AM SO RELEIVED..........

THE JOB IS WITH AN INTERNET COMPANY.  DEALING WITH CUSTOMER SERVICE ON SERVICE, TROUBLESHOOTING AND BILL QUESTION.  INBOUND CALLS.  I PRAY THAT EVERYTHING WILL GO SMOOTHLY............


AS FOR MY DAUGHTER AND THE CAT.  SHE HAS FOUND A GOOD HOME FOR HIM.  IN FACT, SHE WILL BE ABLE TO SEE HIM.  HERE AND THERE.........  IT'S A FRIEND OF HERS, AND THEY HAVE ANOTHER CAT.  SO THE CAT HAS A PLAYMATE, TOO........  AND MY DAUGHTER DID DECIDE TO STAY WITH HER FATHER.........  I WILL MISS HER, BUT I THINK SHE NEEDS TIME AWAY FROM ME........  AND WILL SEE HOW THE CARDS LAY OUT.

                   

I RECEIVED A GRADUATION INVITATION............
SO I WENT OUT TO LOOK FOR A PRESENT.  WHAT DO YOU GIVE???????

I FOUND.............
TEN THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN - BEFORE I WENT OUT INTO THE REAL WORLD  BY MARIA SHRIVER.
A BOOK.........

I FLIPPED THROUGH SOME OF THE PAGES AND

I READ THIS................
"SOMEONE WISE ONCE TOLD ME THAT COURAGE IS WALKING THROUGH YOUR FEAR WITH FAITH."

AND THIS.........
"IF I COULD SPARE YOU THE PAIN YOU'RE EXPERIENCING, I WOULDN'T - BECAUSE I WOULDN'T WANT TO DEPRIVE YOU OF THE STRENGTH AND WISDOM YOU'LL GAIN FROM HAVING GONE THROUGH IT AND COME OUT THE OTHER SIDE."

"YOU CAN SURVIVE AND MOVE ON.  I DID, AND THAT'S THE MESSAGE OF HOPE I PASS ALONG TO YOU: IF I CAN DO IT, YOU CAN DO IT TOO."

SHE GIVE WORDS OF WISDOM............
I DID READ THE CHAPTER ON MARRIAGE IS A HELL OF A LOT OF HARD WORK.

SHE WRITES:
"A GREAT FRIEND OF MINE IS BLISSFULLY, HAPPILY MARRIED.  I ASKED HER HOW SHE DOES IT.  SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE  AND HER HUSBAND PRACTICE WHAT SHE CALLS AUTOMATIC FORGIVENESS.  'IF ONE OF US HURTS THE OTHER'S FEELING OR DOES SOMETHING TO INFURIATE THE OTHER - AND THAT HAPPENS VERY OFTEN, BECAUSE WE'RE SENSITIVE TO EACH OTHER - THEN YOU HAVE TO GET MAD, LET IT BE KNOWN, HAVE A LITTLE OR BIG FIGHT ABOUT IT, AND THEN LET IT GO AND MOVE ON.'  THAT'S FORGIVENESS - NOT HOLDING ON TO AND CULTIVATING THE FEELING THAT YOU'VE BEEN WRONGED AND THEN PARADING AROUND LIKE A WOUNDED MARTYR.  FORGIVENESS IS NOT HAVING TO STAY RIGHT.  LET IT BE KNOWN, AND THEN STOP BLUDGEONING YOUR PARTNER WITH IT.  LET IT GO AND MOVE ON.  MY FRIEND SAYS, 'I KEEP TRYING TO REMIND MYSELF THAT I LOVE THIS MAN AND TO GET PAST THE ANGER AND RETURN TO THE LOVE AS SOON AS I CAN.  GO WITH THE LOVE,' SHE SAYS.  'THIS IS HOW TO STAY MARRIED AND NOT STAY MISERABLE.'  SMART, WISE ADVICE YOU CAN USE, AND IT WORKS.  PRACTICE BEING GOOD AT FORGIVENESS BEFORE YOU SAY 'I DO.' "

SO I ASK..........  IS IT THAT SIMPLE????????
IF MY HUSBAND COULD DO THAT.......  WOULD WE BE TOGETHER??????  I KNOW I COULD FORGIVE AND MOVE ON.....BOY, WOULD I......  BUT I SEE HE COULDN'T.....AND MAYBE THERE IS MORE TO IT.....
THAT'S WHY I ASK, IS IT THAT SIMPLE.........

SHE DID GIVE ME A GOOD IDEA.........
SHE TALKS ABOUT.......MAKE A LIST OF THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY/LAUGH. WHAT'S BEEN FUN. AND DO THEM.....  AND WHEN YOU ARE SO CAUGHT UP AND TAKING YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY.  LOOK AT THE LIST AND DO ONE OF THE THINGS ON IT. PUT SOME OF THE JOY BACK IN........   SOUNDS NICE, HUH........

THIS IS GOOD: "THE LOVE AND THE LAUGHTER ARE WHAT YOU NEED MOST IN YOUR LIFE.  THEY'LL FILL OUT ALL THE POTHOLES IN THE ROAD."

WELL, THANK YOU, EVERYONE FOR YOUR SUPPORT.  TILL NEXT TIME..........