THINGS AREN'T GREAT.........
I HATE TO SOUND SO DRAMA, BUT I THINK MY IS LIFE SOAP OPERA.............
I AM STILL TRY TO GET OVER THIS SICKNESS........ AND THAT WEDNESDAY. BOY.........OTHER BOOM........
I WAS SERVED DIVORCE PAPERS........... I WAS FLOORED. AFTER ALL THESE PASS DAYS.......... I REALLY THOUGH THAT THINGS WERE CHANGING FOR ME........ BUT LIFE THROWS YOU CURVES, HUH...... I HAVE BEEN SO DOWN ABOUT THIS...... I REALLY LAIDED ON MY HUSBAND......
YOU SEE......FROM THE BEGINNING OF THIS TIME OF WORKING THINGS OUT. HE HAD MENTIION TO ME, IF I WAS SERVED....... I DIDN'T. HE THOUGH THAT THAT WAS THE REASON I WAS MORE UPSET WITH HIM. WELL, THINGS ROLLED ON AND WE WERE GETTING TOGETHER. AND SPENDING TIME TOGETHER. AND THEN, BOOM......... I WAS SERVED..........
I TOLD HIM......I WAS MORE PISSED ABOUT THAT WE WERE WORKING AT THIS SLOWLY, BUT YOU DIDN'T STOP THE DIVORCE......... HE TOLD ME. WE STILL HAVE 90 DAYS TO WORK THINGS OUT. IF WE DON'T SHOW UP AT THE DIVORCE. THE JUDGE WILL JUST THROW OUT THE PAPERS, AND WE GO ON........ BUT I TOLD HIM...... THE THING IS YOU DIDN'T CALL TO STOP IT........ THIS IS HOW YOU FEEL......... I COULDN'T TALK TO HIM ANYMORE AND TOLD HIM THAT. WELL, HE HANGS UP ON ME..... CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT........
ABOUT AN HOUR PASSED BY AND HE IS CALLING ME........ WHICH I DON'T UNDERSTAND...... HE WAS CONCERNED FOR ME. HE KNEW I WAS NOT FEELING WELL, AND ASKED IF I WAS TAKING SOMETHING. HE ASKED IF I NEED SOMETHING. AND JUST VERY CONCERNED..... HE KNEW I WAS SO UPSET AND HE ACTED APOLOGETIC. BUT HE NEVER DID SAY THAT...........
WELL, LAST NIGHT WAS MY DAUGHTERS BAND CONCERT......... AND I STILL HADN'T SPOKEN TO HIM, SINCE HIS CALL. I COULD NOT EVEN LOOK AT HIM, I WAS STILL SO UPSET....... WELL, AFTER THE CONCERT. HE FOLLOWED ME HOME. AND RANG THE DOOR BELL, MY DAUGHTER ANSWERED IT...... HE ASKED IF HE COULD SPEAK TO ME. SO WE TALK OUTSIDE..... WE ARE STILL TRYING TO GET MY CAR FIXED. I AM DRIVING IT, BUT IT NEEDS MORE WORK TO BE DONE. WELL, HE TALKED ABOUT THAT AND OTHER THINGS........ SO WHEN HE WAS SAYING GOODBYE....... I ASKED HIM, IF THERE WAS ANYTHING ELSE TO TALK ABOUT......... GIVE HIM AN OPPORTUNITY TO TALK ABOUT IT...... HE SAID HE DIDN'T WANT TO GET INTO IT. AND GET ME ALL UPSET BECAUSE I WAS SICK...... HE SAID WE WOULD TALK ABOUT IT THIS WEEKEND.........
SO WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?.................
WELL, TILL NEXT TIME......BRINx
(((Brin))) I just hope this doesn't mean that he wants the marriage benefits but not the marriage as long as he can get away with it. I feel for you because what I read in your journal does not sound like a man who loves you ENOUGH, the way you deserve to be loved - to be blunt he is actting very selfish and only worried about himself right now.
ReplyDeleteHave you tried going to a counselor together? Maybe that would help - at the very least it would force him to be up front and honest with you about how he is feeling and what he is thinking.
Stacy
Brin, i dont know your husband but is he playing games? Why does he serve you after making it seem you can work on this? I am just sick that you are going thru all of this. I really am. When my 1st husband left me, it was a clean break....hurt like hell, still hurts....but no BS and drama.You dont deserve this. Maybe you can go to talk with a professional....someone who understands these things and can be your support system. If i was there, i would help you anyway i could. Take care! Lisa
ReplyDeleteAwww man, to be served with divorce papers even if you were expecting them is terrible for EVERYONE! You could have the worst marriage in the world and it still hurts to have that sheriff show up at your door. The 90 days your husband is talking about is a law that a divorce can't go forward for 90 days. They call it the "cooling off period" where you can change your mind. If he changes his mind during those 90 days, he can file a "Motion to Withdraw" the divorce, it's that simple. After 90 days the "fun" begins if the divorce will go forward. I would get an attorney on hold for now, it's always good to have one ready just in case. Be ready though, a retainer is not cheap with divorce attorneys. Hang in there! I do hope things work out for you!
ReplyDeleteHugs and love, Lisa
Ohhh Sweetie... he could have warned you it was in the works! If you need to talk IM me okay! I am so sorry Brin! You will get thru all of this, we in J-land love you!
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Kendra
Brin, I know how hard this is for you. You have been back and forth with this for a long time. I am truly sorry it came to this. I hope you are alright...You know as always, I am here for you. Be strong.
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Hi Brin, This is my first time to your journal. I came by to thank you for the nice supportive comment in my journal. Now, it's my turn to offer some support. IF you want someone who has been through something like this, with the same kind of guy feel free to write me. This scenario happened to me TWICE ... same man. We kept trying to work things out, he kept on proceeding and stopping the process at the last possible minute. The entire time he was continuing to plot and move money around so that I had no control or access to our money. It was the 3rd time that I pushed for the divorce. By that time, I couldn't get out fast enough! Anyway, I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Again feel free to write or IM me if you need someone to talk too.
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Bless your heart. I would be pissed to if I were you. I agree that if he was going to try and work things out then he would have stopped you from being served. I do see his idea a little too about the 90 day thing, but I know my feelings would be hurt had I been served too.
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Kathi