WELL, I'VE BEEN TO SAD TO WRITE, AND THINKING ABOUT ALOT OF THINGS.........
I DID CALL MY HUSBAND ON FRIDAY. AND PINNED HIM TO A CORNER........ I ASKED HIM IF HE WANTED THE DIVORCE, YES OR NO. HE DIDN'T WANT TO ANSWER THE QUESTION, TRYED TO BEAT AROUND THE BUSH. BUT I WAS ADAMANT FOR AN ANSWER. HE SAID, "WELL...... YES." THEN, I SAID, "THANK YOU." CAN YOU BELIEVE ME......... THANK YOU......
BUT THEN HE IS LIKE ALL OVER ME. WHAT ARE YOU PLANNING BRENDA? WHAT AM I PLANNING, I TOLD HIM........ I HAVEN'T BEEN THE ONE PLANNING ANYTHING, BUT I NOW HAVE TOO...... I TOLD HIM, YOU WERE THE ONE WHO WAS PLAYING WITH ME, MY FEELINGS, AND PLANNING ALL THIS. I COULDN'T BELIEVE HIM. I HAVE BEEN SO UNSELFISH ABOUT EVERY THING. BUT THAT IS GOING TO CHANGE..........
I SAW A LAWYER TODAY............
SHE IS GOING TO "ANSWER" THE PETITION AND START ON THE PAPER WORK. BUT SHE DID TELL ME, THAT MY HUSBAND ONLY HAS 60 DAYS FROM THE DATE I WAS SERVED, TO STOP THIS. IF THAT'S WHAT HE WANTS. BUT SHE DID ADVISE ME THAT IF HE WANTS TO WORK AT THIS. THAT I SHOULD INSIST THAT HE DOES A "WITHDRAW OF SUE" AND GET COUNSELING. GOOD ADVISE, HUH.......
THINGS ARE SO MISSED UP....... BUT I AM STILL TRYING TO GO ON. I KNOW I HAVE TO MOVE ON......
OUR ANNIVERSARY IS ON JULY THE 4TH. AND I DID THE CALCULATION. IF IT GOES AS PLANNED. WE WILL BE DIVORCE BY JULY 11TH. SAME MONTH........ 17 YEARS.......... WOW, HUH...........
I AM GOING TO TELL HIM TONIGHT. THAT I SAW A LAWYER. NOT THE SAME RESPECT HE GAVE ME. BUT I AM NOT PLAYING THOSE GAMES. WILL SEE HOW HE REACTS.............
TILL NEXT TIME.......
Tuesday, May 17, 2005
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you gotta do what you gotta do...the worst feelign must be to have your life on hold like this while he's being wishy washy. He either wants it or not. You taking these steps will make him realize quick what he really does want. you'll see. good for you for being strong. hang in there.
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I wouldn't even tell him that you saw an attorney. There is no need for him to play with you the way he is. Sometimes it's better to leave things unsaid and to let the legal paperwork do the talking. It will be a shock to him that way and he will have to rethink if he really wants this or not. I am happy that you did get to go for a consult with an attorney though. This is something you can't just ignore and it will go away.
ReplyDeleteHugs and love, Lisa
Oh (((Brin))) please be very very careful with your heart - for some reason this can be a big game for men as soon as they know that their wives have decided to move on - now suddenly their egos can't take it and they play the "want you back game" but as soon as they get her back, have sex, then they remember "oh yea I still want a divorce". Just be careful - everytime you look at him hear him saying "YEA I want a divorce" - don't let yourself get hurt again.
ReplyDeleteI don't mean to be harsh, I just really feel for you - I know what this feels like and I don't want you to get more hurt than you already are. Be strong - you deserve better than him! And remember, God doesn't close a door without opening a window - so that means maybe not now or even this year - but when you are ready, the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life is waiting for you out there.
Good luck Brin!
Stacy