Thursday, June 30, 2005


 YESTERDAY WAS HUMP DAY........

AND MY HUSBAND AND I HAD MADE PLANS. ON EVERY WEDNESDAY NIGHT HE WOULD TAKE THE KIDS FOR A COUPLE OF HOURS.....
LIKE HE REQUESTED IN HIS EMAIL......

WELL, YESTERDAY WAS THE FIRST TIME......

HE CALLED ME BEFORE 5PM, THAT HIS BOSS SUPERVISER WAS IN TOWN AND WAS PLANNING TO TAKE HIM TO DINNER. BUT THAT HE WAS TRY TO GET OUT OF IT. IF HE WASN'T ABLE TO, THAT IF WE COULD DO IT FOR TOMORROW.
I TOLD HIM, WHATEVER, DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO.......
BUT, HE STILL ACTS LIKE HE IS CHECKING ON ME.
WHEN HE CALLED HE ASKED IF I WAS AT WORK. IF I HAD A MIN.
I FELT LIKE TELLING HIM......
IF I WAS NOT ABLE TO TALK, I WOULD HAVE NOT ANSWER THE PHONE.....
BUT I CAN'T BE SO RUDE TO HIM.  AFTER EVERYTHING......
I GUESS I COULD OF TOLD HIM POLITELY.
I HAVE TO MUCH ANGRIER TOWARDS HIM AND I KNOW IT WOULD OF SOUND NOT SO POLITE....

WELL, THE REASON I AM GETTING INTO THIS........
WHEN HE FINALLY CALLED BACK TO SAY, HE WAS ON HIS WAY TO MY HOUSE. OUR SON ASKED TO TALK ON THE PHONE.  HE LOOKS SO CUTE ON THE PHONE.  AND HE IS STARTING TO MAKE CONVERSATION.  HE IS STARTING TO TALK ALOT......  SO HE TALKED TO DAD, THEN SAID "BYE" AND HE CLOSES THE FLIP PHONE.  IT'S TOO CUTE....
BUT......
AFTER THE PHONE CALL, HE GOES TO THE WINDOW AND JUST LOOKS OUT.
HE LIKE A DOG BEGGING TO GO OUT, BUT HE IS WAITING FOR HIS DAD TO DRIVE UP.  HE WOULD OCCASIONAL TURN AROUND AND TELL ME "MY DADDY IS COMING."
I WOULD TELL HIM, "YES, HE IS." 
MY HEART WAS BREAKING.......
HE MISS HIM SO MUCH, AND LOVES THE TIME HE GETS WITH HIM.  BUT HE KNOW THAT HE IS LEAVING ME, AFTER HIS FATHER PUTS HIM IN THE CAR.
BUT HE STARTING TO REALIZE THAT IT IS JUST FOR AWHILE.  HE WILL COME BACK.

I HAVE BEEN THINK ABOUT ALL THIS......
HE IS GOING TO GROW UP THINKING THAT....
A FATHER IS NEVER AROUND THE HOUSE.....
AND THAT HE ONLY SEES A DAD AROUND EVERY OTHER WEEKEND AND 1 DAY OUT OF THE WEEK.......
THIS IS HOW HE IS GOING TO GROW UP. THINKING THIS........
HOW DIVORCE CHANGES SO MUCH.......

MY BABY GIRL SPENT SOME TIME WITH MY OLDEST.....
I WAS AT WORK WHEN I SAW THAT I HAD A MESSAGE.....  SO I ASKED TO TAKE A BREAK TO CHECK IT.
SHE HAD CALLED TO SEE IF SHE COULD GO WITH MY OLDEST. SHE WASGOING SHOPPING.  MY OLDEST WAS NOT ABLE TO GO BY HERSELF (DAD'S RULES). {REMEMBER, SHE IS LIVING WITH MY HUSBAND.} WHICH I WOULD OF SAID THE SAME THING. SO SHE CALLED MY BABY GIRL.  BY THE TIME I CALLED HER.  THEY WERE ALREADY ON THE ROAD.  I TOLD HER THAT THIS WOULD NEVER BE A PROBLEM.  BUT TO LEAVE A MESSAGE THAT SHE WAS WITH HER. SO I WOULD KNOW.....
I AM SO HAPPY THAT THEY GOT TOGETHER........  SISTER, HUH........
THEY ARE BECOMING CLOSE...... THAT MAKES ME SO HAPPY......  ONE GOOD THING THAT HAS HAPPEN BECAUSE OF THE DIVORCE.......

WELL, I STAYED BUSY......
I MOWED AND EDGED MY FRONT YARD. PLUS, I EVEN WASHED MY CAR AND CLEANED THE INSIDE......  IT NEEDED IT.  TOOK SOME BAGS OF CLOTHING TO THE GOODWILL. I HAD THOSE BAGS IN THE TRUNK FOR ABOUT 6 MONTHS, MAYBE.....
BUT I DID ALOT....

WELL, I BETTER GO. I NEED TO GET READY...

TILL NEXT TIME...... 

5 comments:

  1. Brin, it's so hard to watch what this is doing to your son. He loves both of you and doesnt understand what is going on. Your doing all you can. Its great your girls are getting close. Sisters are special, I have 3 of them !
    Ellen

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  2. This may not be a smart thing to do but i will share it anyway. I was divorced on 12/18....one week before Christmas. I was 21. Meg was 13 months old. The ex husband had not seen her in months. He called and said can i have her on Christmas day. I said yes. He came in an ice storm...pulled up. I had to put her car seat and her in his car because he was a dumbass and didnt know how. I had to kiss my 13 month old baby goodbye for 5 hrs and let that SOB take her away. I will die remembering how it felt to watch him drive off. He was taking my world with him. I stood in the ice storm and weeped. Just fell apart in my dads driveway because my life was no longer what my dreams had thought it would be. I felt like a failure for losing my husband. I begged him to stay. He didnt love me. In the end i just have never gotten over the fact i had to raise Meg without her dad right there, like it should be. Brin, we cant control anyone but ourselves. It hurts so badly. I understand every word you write. So sorry, sweetie.
    Love, lisa jo

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  3. I hope I dont have to raise my son that way...right now he sleeps between mommy and daddy and he kisses us both before he goes to bed...I know what you mean...that he's going to grow up seeing his daddy every other weekend or so..but I'm sure you'll teach him to be there for his kids....Andrew

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  4. Wow Brin!  My thoughts and prayers are with you... I sent my friend Kim your comment... I really wish you two could be there for each other!!!!  Thanks for being there for me too!
    Hugs With Love,
    Kendra

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  5. Wow Brin!  My thoughts and prayers are with you... I sent my friend Kim your comment... I really wish you two could be there for each other!!!!  Thanks for being there for me too!
    Hugs With Love,
    Kendra

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