SO I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT MY SITUATION..........
I KNOW THAT KIDS FIGURE THINGS OUT, EVEN IF WE TRY TO PROTECT THEM. "THANK YOU RHONDA"
BUT THEN I KNOW THAT MY OLDEST READING MY JOURNAL COULD BE HARD FOR HER. "THANK YOU NANCY"
SO I AM WONDER WHAT I SHOULD DO...........
I WANT TO BE HONEST WITH MY KIDS IN EVERYTHING. I KNOW I AM NOT PERFECT OR MY X. WE ARE GOING THROUGH SOMETHING THAT IS HARD FOR BOTH OF US AND OUR KIDS. THIS MIGHT BE ONE WAY FOR US TO START OPENING UP. MY X AND I LOVE OUR KIDS SO MUCH. ONE THING IS FOR SURE, HE IS NOW BEING A FATHER......... SORRY BUT THAT IS HOW I SEE IT. HE IS BEING MORE INVOLVED WITH HIS KIDS. OUR DAUGHTERS ARE NOT TO MUCH HANDS ON LIKE OUR SON. BUT I BELIEVE HE IS SEEING THAT........ DID NOT HAPPEN DURING THE MARRIAGE.....
SO WHAT TO DO...........
ALSO.........
WITHOUT THE SUPPORT I GET FROM HERE...........
I DO NOT KNOW WHERE I WOULD BE NOW........
I HAVE BEEN ABLE TO TALK ABOUT THINGS INSTEAD OF BOTTLING THEM INSIDE. AND I SOME GOOD ADVICE OF YOU ALL.........
TILL NEXT TIME.........
well you can make this private so only invited people can read it. I mean evidently your daughter is making the decision to read it and thus its her decision. she is big enough to be mad and so its up to her. I think yes she can figure things out and yes it may be hard for her. BUt she needs to know that you have needs too. and you may have to start a new journal and keep it private so she cant read it at all and just use this one for other things. My daughters I never kept anything from them. They know they can trust me from my divorce on. I told them the truth. When they had to have blood tests I told thier dad is asking for it NOT because he really beleives........... they are not his and its not really becuase he is saying I was bad. HE Is just desperate to try anything and being lead astray by lawyers (who are eveil and love extra money) and a woman who is giving him advice because she lead taht kind of life (taking him from me when I was pg with our second child) and who had dont this many times before. So that is all she knew and she thought everyone did that. She was not evil and yes she could do kind things like when she tried to fix her hair up (I said good job) and it was a mess and she tried to make biscuts iwht her ( I said neat cause cant make em from scratch) but everyone has thier faults. (Tracy was six at the time) and she has known when her dad wanted to visit and when he did not. I never hid a thing and people who meet my girls say they are the most healthy well balanced kids they know of. EVEN among kids not of divorce. They have made thier own decisions to visit with him or not knowing the truth and fully armed with all info to make that decision GOOD and BAD!!!!!!!! It enabled them to be truth ful whe his step son tried to touch one of mine NOT with thier dad but with me. They knew they could trust me.
ReplyDeleteYour welcome! How can she read it? D
ReplyDeleteSo glad you're open-minded. that's great! Nancy
ReplyDeleteLove you girly:)
ReplyDeleteNiki
This is just the next hurdle your going over with the whole divorce. It will pass too.
ReplyDeleteEllen