I am so glad Christmas is over.................
It was hard. I was alone for Christmas Eve till 11pm. EX did not return the kids till then. I did not mind but then he was trying to make plans to come over on Christmas morning. I ignored him because I could not deal with that. That is why I gave him Christmas Eve, so I would not have to see him on Christmas day........
But he still messed up my Christmas day.....
I was invited to my friends house for Christmas Lunch. I did not take my baby girl because she is not friends with my friends kids. So she stayed home, but told her that I would be back and we would have Christmas Dinner.
While I was gone. He called my cell which I did not answer. He left a message about wanting to know how my son reacted to his Santa gift..... I did not returned his call. Another hour passed and he called again....
This time telling me that he dropped by and that my daughter did not look happy. He wanted to give me the heads up.......
What do you think WHY......
It is our first year divorce. We (my baby girl and I) were both feeling disappointed and lonely and sad....... I went to my friends for some support, then I would come back to have dinner with my baby girl.....
My Christmas tradition was to open present Christmas morning, and My baby girl did not even want to do that this year. It was very sad and upsetting for me......
So was everything......
Well, yesterday I had it out with my EX......
My baby girl and the Ex talked and basically she is having a problem with "me dating."
Last Friday, I asked my EX if my son could sleep over. My baby girl was already with her dad. He did not mind. Well, my friends lives 2 doors down from my EX. We were going out and I left my car there at the apartment complex parking lot, and we token her car. Well, my EX told me that my baby girl stayed up till 3 am, when I arrived. I asked how he handle it. He said he asked her if she wanted to move in with him.......
I was so upset. This was part of our problems. How we handle our kids....
I told him now she feels pressured.... instead of help the situation. He added to her worry. He also started on me about staying out so late and meeting guys at clubs was not good.... He gave me his opinion. Which I told him, (and Please excuseme, but I am still PO.) "Your F**king opinion does not matter to me. Your opinion is s**t to me."
He went on and on and on.....
So what it comes down to is that he also has a problem with me dating.....
Oh..... Last Thursday night, I caught him driving by my house at 2am. Maybe not the first time.... the only reason I saw. Because I was checking on my son, that was the night he got his staples.
What the hell is this all about.......
He was the one who left me, had an affair, was sleeping with both of us, and got the divorce........
So I am not able to move on....... Am I not to date......
I know I have to talk to my baby girl......
She should be back today from dad's apartment. But I will be planning on having a talk with her.......
I can not believe this is what I am having to deal with.....
I know that my life goes on and I want to be happy.....
I want to share my time with someone special....
I want to have some fun......
I am looking for Mr. Right.... Right for me.....
So why does everyone else have a problem with it......
Now, my EX has his girlfriend around my kids......
I have learned to accept that, so Me dating......
I do not have the guys around my kids..... I have twice or maybe 3 times asked my baby girl to watch my son while I met up with a friend. She is 15 and she said she did not mind...... But being that she has a problem with me dating.... I will do my dating when dad has them.......
But that night that she stayed up till 3am. She was at dad's. But I will not leave my car at my friends house......
Boy, This is hard.......
He has moved on, Why can I not move on..........
Anyway.....
I glad Christmas is over. My son is doing well with his staples. I have been going out since the kids are with dad....
OH last night we went to a karaoke bar.... THAT WAS SO FUN......LOL......
She is fun to hang around with......
Well, till next time......
Wednesday, December 28, 2005
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Yeah this year everyone is complaining aboutthe holidays. I tell you its hard very hard. WELL about your ex mine still called me asking to get back even after I married my present husband. for years up untilll five or six years ago. NOW tell me why he can leave me when I was 3 months pg and we had a six year old and he leaves me for the company whore (what he called her before he hooked up wtih her ) when I m pg and he does not want me to date. MAN You shoudl have seen him when he found out and when he came on his one of only five visits and saw the bedroom a mess and me not dressed (WINK I did that on pourpose) and he asked to go to the bathroom cuase he wanted to see if there was a man back there lol Yeah well there wasnt but he dont need to knwo that. MEN they want fun but want you to be hung up on them. HOpe the talk goes well with your daughter.
ReplyDeleteAhhh and the jealousy begins...your ex will just have to get over himself. And do not let him use your kids as an excuse as to why you cannot go out. First of all he is the one who decided he wanted to let go of you and be with another woman. Secondly your kids are hurt because of that not because oh now mommy is looking for someone new. I really think that he needs to stop talking to your kids as adults and start realizing he has made the mistake and not to make you look like the bad guy!!! I remember when my mother started to date after my dad was gone (mind you I was daddy's little girl) well I was not having that my mom was my mom and her and my dad will get back together and that was that. I treated her boyfriends like crap because of it. Now I look back and know my mother deserved to be loved again and was lonely. Maybe you might want to think about taking the kids to counseling. It might help, please do not take me as pushy sorry if I sound that way, I am not meaning too!!!!
ReplyDeleteDaniella
Unfortunately, you are finding out that some ex's have double standards when it comes to dating. You won't win the battle, but you do need to set some boundaries with him. It is NOT acceptable for him to spy on you, and he is perpetuating the problem with your daughter by not discouraging her to do the same. Not an easy issue to deal with, but you need to as soon as possible. Good luck...
ReplyDeletexoxo ~Myra
Brin, listen to me....do not trust the EX for a second. He wants your kids...he will use whatever he can to win this.Its a control thing for him. NOt about love or caring. He is an ASS. You need to sit down both kids....babygirland your son and tell them that daddy has moved on with new woman and you may have "male" friends but they are not # 1, they are there to talk with and laugh.These kids have been you crying for a year. Let them know they are the most important to you. DIdnt surprise me at all that the ex is watching you. But he may be trying to get something on you. YOu need to get a babysitter if you are gone for long periods of time. He will try to sneak in while you are gone. Watch what you say about male friends at all around the kids. I dont trust your ex. But i love you. i want you happy.
ReplyDeleteLove, lisa jo
Brin, I agree w/ lisa jo. Dont trust your Ex. Whats good for him, isnt good for you?? F THAT !!! You be careful but do whats right for you.
ReplyDeleteEllen