I received a phone call from my EX......................

That was not good, when is it ever.........

He told me that Brenda Lee is drinking, plus she has a myspace website that has pictures of her drunk........

He told me that how he found out:
Last night, she called dad to let him know that she was at a friend's house. He told that her friend's mother need to call him, so he would know that she was there with them.  Well, she had a friend act like her friend's mother.  He knew/caught her in a lie and told her she need to get home.  When she got home, he knew she was drunk, and they got into it.  She wanted to leave, and he told her if she left not to come back....... 
Can you believe him, but I know he was upset. My heart dropped and wonder where she was.  He told me that she went to Katy (the girlfriend), and that she called him.  So he went over, and they talk some more, and she back at the apartment with him, but she is grounded.....
He said that he is going to make her quit her job that he never wanted her to work.  He went with that because I wanted her to work, and he told me that she did not learn to drink from him that is all my doing..............

Then I hung up on him.................
Always a jerk............  and it is always my fault.

He called back, but I did not answer and he left a voicemail saying that I need to talk to her.  That she went to Katy.  She deals with them. She doesn't deal with you. That I need to deal with this, you (I) need to talk to her, and you (I) certainly don't believe it was dumb when you (I) were doing this (drinking) and now she is doing this. But she is only 17 and should not be doing this, but yet he said that he was going to lay down the law and take care of it.

He is a trip..........  I am just so upset........
I let him get to me......

So what I did was:
I called Katy.  I first thanked her for being there for Brenda Lee, but I wanted to know what they talked about.  I know that she will not listen to me, but I want to know how she is thinking.  She told me that she is a typical teenager.  She is drinking, but she is not getting drunk.  She is not putting herself in danger, as for as she says. (I hope that means driving drunk, I believe she is not.)  But she feels like nothing could happen to her.
I did ask her what advise she gave her.  She said that she told her what she is doing is wrong.  She said she told her of some story that she has been in. But she said she is being like any other teenager........
Great.....
I did tell her that I know she will not listen to me because I have been there.  I did the same thing to my mother.  I know how she feels.  And David blaming me is wrong.  She said that is between you all.  I told her that she needed to know because I know he has alot on his plate, but he does not realize that I've token care of all that in the pass (handling problems like this). And now, that he is in care of the girls.  He calls me and blames me......  I told her that I would not stand for it, and she agreed.  I wonder but if she does understand but at least I told her........ and him.

Well that was this morning, this afternoon he called me again.........  I answered the phone...........

He wanted to tell me that he also suspects that she is doing drugs...........
I asked him why he taught that.  He said that one evening she was cleaning her room and making alot of noise.  DJ was asleep, and he was afraid that he would wake up with all the noise she was making.  So he told her to be quite.  Well, she acted all strung up..........

So now what.........
I did tell him that how he was handling this would be different than I would handle it.  So he asked how I would handle it.  I told him that it was not the right time to discuss it. 
He was at work which he had a boss from the Corp. office visiting.  All week he had been preparing for it, and I knew (because he kept telling me) he would be in today.  I told him he should take care of work and then we would talk about it later tonight.  But I know he is not going to like what I have to say.  He has the care of the girls more; but I will talk to him and see if.....  I will plant the seed on how he deals with it, is his doing............

I told my boss that no one has said that parenting was going to be easy; divorce or not..........
either way; kids will be kids........
Everyone has to make mistake and learn from them.
Some kids want to learn the hard way instead of listening to their parents...........

Well Till next time................