Wednesday, May 24, 2006

I have not been in the mood to write......................

because the argument with my ex, and he knows how to push my buttons.  I feel so drained plus helpless for my kids.

I did talk to the ex yesterday, and he has clam down.  He still feels that therapy will not help them, but we agreed to make the girls see a therapist.  I feel like they are not going to want to go, but after a couple of session.  Things will change....  I hope.....

He is now making excuse for the girlfriend.  She is saying that I did not grab her, that I stood in front of her way, so I could introduce her to my friend.  whatever.....

Yesterday I had the first appointment with DJ's therapist.  He wants some input of what I think is going on with DJ.  It went well, but I could hear myself.  It made me wonder if I was making too much of this.  I am not; at times he is doing well and at times he is bad.  And I feel like at times I am handling it good and at times I am not.

Last week, I told DJ that if his heart did not come off his tree all week, well till Thursday, I would buy him a book.

It worked; his teacher told me that he was trying very hard.  She could see the differences.  Well, this weekend dad had DJ, and he comes back hugging dad and not wanting to let go.  I know he is missing dad and he is adjusting.  For me, the hard part is getting help from dad.  I am hoping that therapy will help all of us......

Plus my girls, they are older, but I could see how they are so confused.  And the way they are treating me.  I can't help them, so I do hope that therapy will help them.

I told Sabrina that I was upset with her on Monday.  We talked on Sunday when they were dropping off DJ that I would be off on Tuesday and let's get together.  Well, she made excuses on Monday, and I told her I was disappointed.  I was tryed ofhow her sister and herself were treating me.  I then told her I would talk to her later and left it that way.  She did not call me back and mention it to dad.  I asked him yesterday if she talked to him about us, and he did.  But did not say anything to it.  He is leaving it to us to workout......

 

Well, School will start next week after Memorial Day......

I do hope it goes by fast.......

Till next time.....

  

2 comments:

  1. theraphy is a good thing for all involved:) hang in there ok

    Deb

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  2. Well Brin the best thing you can do is get outside help for now...DJ just needs some understanding and it is ok that you are taking him to theropy...don't look at it as he has problems..because he does not it is just he is confused right now.  ANd understandable so.  He is at an age where he recognizes his environment and is confused as to why it is split.  He love both mom and dad and can't understand why he can't love you both together.  You have to remember he does not understand the reason you two are not together...he is to young to comprehend that sort of stuff.  Yeah he knows you are not living together and stuff but well you know what I am getting at.  Theropy will just help him grasp the whole situation!

    Daniella

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