TODAY IS MY OLDEST DAUGHTER BIRTHDAY.......

 

SHE IS 18 YEARS OLD.......

 

Happy 18th Birthday Brenda Lee.

THIS WAS TAKEN AT PARENTS NIGHT FOOTBALL GAME.

My hair is so short.... but I love this picture.

Till next time.....

 

Ok.... I have been avoid this but it is time.  I want to tell you about what happen last Friday; the good and the bad..........

Now, the bad first, so the good will come last.

 

Last Friday night was the last football game for my girls, plus it was going to be Parents Night.  The band introduces their Senior Members and Parents.  Well, guess what happen.  My ex's new wife stands on the field with us.  I was so pissed; I told him she did not belong there, but he disagreed said that she washes her clothing and cooks for her.  She is her step-mother, and she was going to be there.  I did not want to argue, so I let it be.  Oh, they made this wooden pins for the mothers to have to wear that night.  My friend who had a senior band daughter told me about the pins and for me to go and get mine before the step-mother did because they only had one.  I got mine on after awhile I wonder how they were going to announce us.  So I went to ask the lady who was handling the pins about this.  She told me that she did not know that the paperwork was already in the booth.  She looked at me and told me she was sorry.  Then she said that she saw that my ex had her there.  Remember that not everyone has heard that they are married; at that time it was not even a week that they were married.  So she is looking at me like she feels for me.  Then she tells me that Katy went and asked for her pin.  The lady had to tell her that there was only one pin.  She should had told her that is was for the MOTHER OF THE DAUGHTER not the step-mother.  Oh, I forgot to tell you all what else she did.  I was stand by the gate to hand off DJ to my ex because it was his weekend with him, and we made arrangements for him to pick him up before the game.  When they walked in; Katy was carry roses.  I was so pissed.  When I argued with my ex earlier; he did not mention anything about this, so I felt like I was the mean mom.  She had roses to present to her, and I had nothing.  Oh I wanted to run.......  I felt so little and like everyone was looking at me.  I think they were; most of the people that were there know me and about the ex.  So I feel like we are drama of the town for the moment.  My friend told me to breathe and just smile.  I did.....

When they call Brenda Lee's name.  They announce:  Brenda Lee with her father David Del Moral and Katy Del Moral and her mother Brenda Del Moral.  I thanked Brenda Lee the next day because she was the one who filled out the paperwork, and she had them announce us that way.  So when we were stand on the sidelines waiting.  Katy was complaining that her arms hurt because of carry the roses, so the ex took them.  And once Brenda Lee was walking down to stand next to us by the sidelines.  Dad was handing her the roses, so it look like dad with giving her the roses.  Plus they gave Brenda Lee one rose to give away, and she gave it to me, but I did reach for it.  I did not want her to give it to Katy; I would have lost it for sure if that happened.  We took picture also, and I was so upset that Katy was going to be in the picture.  Well, when the photographer asked for out money order.  I hand mine, and the ex told the photographer to take Brenda Lee and me together, so I moved to Brenda Lee's other side so my pin could be in the picture; plus I was showing off in front of Katy that I had the pin, and she did not. HEHEHE........  But then my ex hands his money order and gets Brenda Lee to be in the middle of Katy and him.  When all was over.  I had told my ex that I was leaving and that he needed to follow me to my car to get DJ's bag for the weekend.  So he was walking with me, but........

Now for the good part.......

I was walking and saw my friends.  I would stop and say hello, then walk and stop to say hello.  This happen 2 or 3 times while David was walking with me.  We were almost to the gate entrance, so he waited for me there.  Well, this guy who had been looking at me when I was on the sidelines came up to me and said hello.

GUY: Hello, my name is Ruben. (shaking hands)

ME: Hi, I am Brenda.  Do I know you.

RUBEN: No, but I wanted to tell you that you are a beautiful lady.

ME: (smiling, then I look over to where David is standing then look back at him)  Oh, thank you.  (I giggle)

RUBEN:  Are you leaving?

ME: Yes, I am meeting up with some friends.

RUBEN:  Well, let me give you my phone number, so you can call me later.

ME:  Let me give you my number, you call me when you are available.

I have made a rule for myself; if they are interested in me.  They could call me.  So I gave him my phone number.

OK.....  I HAVE TO SAY THIS.....

FOOTBALL TICKETS:  $6.00
FOOD AT THE GAME: $10.00
GETTING HIT ON IN FRONT OF YOUR EX-HUSBAND: PRICELESS.........  LOL.........

My cousin and I came up with that one and laughed our ass off............

Anyway, Ruben did text message me that night, but I was already with someone.  I know......  I told him to call me on Saturday, and he did.  The other guy did not workout, so I am see how things workout with Ruben.

Well, that is all for now......

Oh, in one week on Thanksgiving Day.  My Brenda Lee will be 18........  I can not believe that.......  I remember when I was 18.

Till next time.......

 

Some good news and bad news...........

First the bad news, I always want the bad news, so I have good news after it.

I was let go from my job.  Yep, she did not need my assistance anymore.  I hope I could find another job that will work around my school hours.  Please say a prayer for me.  I have been looking.  I went to the school; they have a job bank for students, and I went to a temp agent and apply again. So please say a prayer that I find one soon.

The good news; I meet someone yesterday.  He is 10 years old than me, but he is very nice, and we do have a lot of things in common.  So will see how things go.

Where did I leave off on my last entry; OH Yea.

Brenda Lee.....   Well, she called me back to apologize, but I tried to talk to her and get her to talk to me, but she was still holding back.  I told her how I want so much for her.  How I am here for her.  She does not understand.  Yes, Daniella, she is a teenager, but I was hoping that she would start growing up and realize things for herself.  I ended our conversation about the plans for the Thanksgiving Holiday.  I should have the kids, but after we talked.  I get a phone call from Sabrina.  She start say that Brenda Lee told her about my plans for the holiday.  Oh, quick note: Brenda Lee's 18th Birthday will be on Thanksgiving Day this year.  And the ex and I have talked about what times we were going to share for Brenda Lee's birthday.  He was going to have the morning, and I was going to have them for the afternoon and evening, plus the holiday days.  So Sabrina tells me that they have plans already for Thursday.  They wanted to spend the morning with me and afternoon with their friends and evening with dad.  She said that my ex told them; they could choice on what they wanted to do for the holidays.  I was so upset and told her that that is not right.  This holiday is mine, and she reminds me again that their dad told them they could do what they want.  I told her that the divorce decree is set, so we could share the time equal between our kids and that this holiday was mine.  But if you choice to spend it with your friends instead of your mother then go ahead.  I was so upset and hung up on her.  I am so tried of this treatment I am getting from my girls.  I called my ex and asked him if he said that.  He said that he told them that they could choice to go with me on the weekend like we agreed but not the holidays.  He said that is the first time he heard about their plans, so he said he was going to talk to them.  Well, he did and he called back saying that they are so upset with me, and they are not going to change their plans and left it.  I told him I was done.  Things for me are going to change between my girls and me.  I will not be giving them money, and if they wanted to see me.  They better get with me in advance because I am going with my plans and not change things around for them.  I told him that what is so sad about this is that Katy (New Step-Mom) gets more respect than I do.  And he agreed; can you believe that.  But I told him that was changing for me.  I am so tried of this treatment. 

Anyway, I hope things change around here.  I need a job, and I meet someone new.  I did my education plan, and if everything goes as plan, I will graduate in Spring 2008.  WooHoo......  I am halfway there.  I could see the light in the tunnel.  I just need to find another job that will work around my school hours, so I could finish.  Oh God, I hope I do.

Till next time.....

 

 

"He Is Your Brother"

I was a fighter always looking for trouble
And my life was so empty, there was nothing left to live for
But then it happened one night as I got into a fight
I could hear someone saying as though he was praying
Ah-a-ah-a-a-a-ah-ah

Treat him well, he is your brother
You might need his help some day
We depend on one another
Love him, that's the only way
On the road (on the road) that we're going
We all need (we all need) words of comfort and compassion
Treat him well, he is your brother
Love him, that's the only way

I was a woman never thinking of others
And my life was so lonely, didn't care for anybody
But then I happened to meet a begging man in the street
As I turned down his praying I heard someone saying
Ah-a-ah-a-a-a-ah-ah

Treat him well, he is your brother (brother)
You might need his help one day (he's your brother)
We depend on one another (brother)
Love him, that's the only way
On the road (on the road) that we're going (that we're going)
We all need (we all need) words of comfort and compassion
Treat him well, he is your brother (brother)
Love him, that's the only way.

Treat him well, he is your brother (brother)
You might need his help one day (he's your brother)
We depend on one another (brother)
Love him, that's the only way

[repeat and fade]

I have some news.............

My ex got married to her this weekend.  Which I do not care, well maybe just a little because I wonder if he has found the true love.  I have been wonder about if true love does really exist?  He said that they need to get married before he claim bankruptcy.  Which I do not understand, but I did not want to hear the details.  I know that if I wanted to stay married to him.  All I had to do was during our marriage claim bankruptcy, and we would not be able to get divorce.  So why get married before claiming bankruptsy, so he would not be able to get divorce from him?  I wonder if that was her doing?   Who cares, I don't she could have him, and she does now.......  LOL.....

But he told me other things that I am so upset with Brenda Lee.  He told me that this lady came to their house and accused Brenda Lee of egging her house because Brenda Lee's car was seem at the house.  Well, my ex call Brenda Lee home and questioned her about it, then they (ex, Brenda Lee and Katy) went to this lady's house to talk to her.  Well, he said that he had to hold Katy back because she was getting out of hand to defend Brenda Lee.

Well, I am upset because Brenda Lee called me Sunday morning that she needed to talk to me.  She came over and asked for money; about $200, for shirt that they were collecting to do this huge shirt day for school.  So I gave her the money plus I paid other $90 to register her for her ACT and SAT because dad could not pay for it since he is going bankruptsy.

Then I told that this is all happening, and Brenda Lee does not tell me.  I called her and told her that I was upset with her.  Here she could come and ask me for $300, but she can not talk to me about what is happen in her life.  My ex told me that Andrea and Brenda Lee are somewhat back together.  I hate that my girls are treating me this way.  I can't believe that they are treating this way; am I so bad that they have shut me out, but when they need money where do they go to.

It hurts me so much........

Till next time.....